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Two Lesbians Raised A Baby And This Is What They Got

Two Lesbians Raised A Baby And This Is What They Got

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I often forget to keep current my blog and this disappoints me! When certain things happen in my life I look back and say, I wish I had blogged about that so I could reflect on whether on not I have grown from that experience or if I'm still stuck there.
Most of the time I just feel stuck. Everywhere, in my marriage, in my depression,in my weight, in my fear.


DIfferent Topic

I've decided to just let the subject of the bulldogs die. They're back in Florida, where they belong. Melissa Nelson an evil evil woman with no moral conscience, I am convinced will eventually be punished by the threefold law. Not only because of what she did to me personally, and how she tried to destroy my reputation in my own neighborhood, but in the rescue community as well. Just from what I have seen her do to other people, bash them, post their picture, write stories, who knows if they're true. She should be ashamed of herself.

And this is the last you will hear from me on this topic.


My Trainer

Canine Counsel- When Tucay came he sat with us for at least 45min, in that time he assessed all my dogs, not just the American Bullys. He sat with Max, petting him, stroking him, I think he took a liking to's hard not to, he's the perfect blue nose pit. 
He gave us history, we discussed dog psychology, his philosophy and how we would begin training. I really admired him and I couldn't wait to get started!
We made a plan and scheduled our next appointments.
The next day I started with the first steps of his direction and we were somewhat successful! Then one day coming in from a walk my little chihuahua Schnook darted out from behind the couch and the female grabbed her, I was too late. By the time I got her to the Animal Hospital she was gone. Shock and a punctured lung.
Then a few days later when we had one really awful fight, it was more like a trying to  break it up, I almost lost the tip of my finger and my husband got a fractured wrist, lost 2 weeks of work, the male almost lost an eye.
That was the last straw, as a family we decided we could no longer put our family at risk. I tried to get in touch with Fur Angels but I had no luck. I practically begged Bulldog Rescue to help me, they only place Olde English Bulldogs.
I was at my wits end. My last resort was to reach out to a friend out East with much more room than I have to hold onto the dogs until I could come up with a solution. My house was much too small, they were constantly in view of each other it was way too stressful. At least, I thought at Bill's place they'd have access to a dog run where they could get exercise and peace.
However! nothing in life is easy...transporting the dogs they see a stray,and begin fighting,get lose and chase the stray dog,and get lost.
They wind up in East Hampton Shelter....

It Just Doesn't Stop

So much has happened since my last post. I really need to tell the story of my bulldogs. So many of you that read my blog followed the story of their adoption with great interest, and I believe you all deserve to know what happened when Jason and I went to pick them up from Florida. 
We picked them up, put them in the car...turned the corner and they began to fight. Not serious,we pulled over and broke it up, separated them and continued on our way. Every single time we stopped to water, feed, or walk them there was a fight. They were just too strong for me to hold, with my RSD, I have absolutely no strength in my hands. 
The fighting was unbelievable, I thought they were going to kill each other. We finally got home and it continued,only now MY dogs were being attacked as well! Poor Max, his jaw took such a beating, but we were able to them apart right away due to the size difference and Max's response to me.
I tried everything with these dogs, I crated them, covered the crates, kept them in different rooms, fed and walked them at different times. They still managed to get to each other by breaking through the metal crates. The female had a HUGE laceration on her forehead from bashing her head repeatedly against the crate in an attempt to escape.
Chewing on the crate to bend the bars so they would brake easily. It was constant fighting, constant tension. 
After a week of this I knew it was time to call in a professional. I found the BEST he has experience with American bullys as well as fighting dogs. When I called him he gave me such encouragement. 


Multi-faceted Update

I came to give an update on the dogs, only to see all posts from March seem to have been deleted!
This is a serious BUMMER since soooo much has happened since then! Let's see, I'll try to condense it all and make it short and sweet.
When I adopted the Bulls to prevent them from being put down, we had arrangements for everything from boarding to transport, but unfortunately we just ran into one issue after another!
When I couldn't wait any longer I drove down to Highalyea FL and picked them up myself. Not that, that wasn't issue free, more on that later...
But they're here now and all is not picture perfect. We have sibling rivalry to the fullest extent. 
Now Pits I know and can read and deal with...Bulldogs are new to me, so, I called in a professional. More to come on that!


Change in Plans-Good News/Bad News?

Sunday came and boy what a busy and eventful day it was! I was praying all the dogs got adopted and mine got to Comfort Kennels without a hitch. Well...I should know by now, nothing ever goes as planned! 
Marilyn, who is such a doll I can't even find words, called to tell me Cannon was gone, but did I want his brother, I said yes of course, but his brother was also gone...sad for me, but GREAT for them!!

I had been looking at the dogs still left and I kept being drawn to a dog named Nemesis, why on Earth would you name Man's best friend Nemesis? *sigh* Anyway, thankfully someone who MET the dog, renamed him Wiggles :O)
who happened to be heartworm positive. Surely a death sentence at this stage of the game.
I mentioned to Marilyn I wanted to take Wiggles, we discussed the  heartworm and how sick he was, I had to give this underdog a chance.  Heartworm is completely treatable, caused by a mosquito bite! Also completely preventable with  monthly maintenance.       So..... he's mine!

I adopted HIM!!

 Now Diamond and Wiggles are officially MY dogs!!  I just have to get them HERE...Please don't forget about the Chip-in, so many have been very generous already,but every little bit helps, these dogs need to see the vet, which means being driven, then the cost of transport. Every little bit saved is more I have to spend on vet care, training, and SPOILING!!! 

I'm so excited I can hardly stand it! And it wouldn't have been possible without the help, patience, tenacity, and dedication of some lovely women I have been blessed to have on my side! More on that later ;o)


Sunday-the last day and the suspense is killing me!

Today CANNON and DIAMOND are being rescued by Dahlia Canes and Ana Alvite is taking them to COMFORT KENNELS (Yes, they are opening tomorrow just for these dogs! thank You Fabio!) And then Ileana Gibson is taking them to Palmetto Animal Clinic for health certificates to travel and a nice tick removal bath and tick collar. Then they will go back to Comfort Kennels for a short time while Leslie Crews works out the exact pick date for them to travel to Long Island, NY to Deb Stelling.(that's ME!!)

I've been tweeting the chip-in regularly,today I realized hashtags were a good idea,this way American Bulldog lovers would be sure to read it, as well as anyone aware of what's going on at MDAS.
Hopefully, the next post will be when my dogs are at Comfort Kennels!! Fingers crossed :O)



You all know my advocacy and love of the Bully breeds. Whats happening in MDAS is breaking my heart,so we've decided to welcome 2 American Bulldogs into our home. You can meet them below. I'm paying for everything I can, and those of you who know me, know I hate to ask for help...but any little bit saved getting these guys here to Long Island will save $$ for vet care and training. So many have helped where they can, I've been very lucky that the ladies down in FL are relentless in getting things done, and so generous with their time. They could teach some of the rescues up here a thing or two! 

Please help save just 2  Diamond and Cannon of 300+ in danger of losing their lives?? If just 10 of you chipped in$2, that would pay for vet certificates and the tick bath Cannon needs! 
I know you'll help if you can. I thank you all from the bottom of my heart. I'm praying they ALL get out.  


Please help......MDAS is cleaning house All dogs need out today and tomorrow. Don't have a time frame as to when they will be put down but very very urgent. This is no joke!!!! Tell everyone!!!
Know that this means any animals past due, without holds or DNE'S do not have much time. To close the shelter for intakes so that it can be cleaned of disease does not allow for all animals to remain there indefinately.
We are trying to rescue at least 2 American Bulldogs from MDAS today or tomorrow.
They have a family that wants to adopt them from Seldon, NY. Deb Stelling.
these dogs will have to be taken to the vet immediately. CANNON has a tick infestation and will need treatment for that before he is able to travel and get the health certificates the dogs need for transport.
Ground transportation is being worked out now.
They will stay at Comfort Kennels until ready to go to New York's Long Island.



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I entitled this post 'Mothering' as apposed to parenting, because for the most part while raising my oldest daughter it was solely mothering.With a husband who worked long hours and as much overtime as he could get so I could be a SAHM, I sometimes felt like a single parent. 

I was 19 when she was born, essentially, we grew up together. I fell in love for the first time, I never wanted to put her down, I held her endlessly.We co-slept,I was fiercely protective of her. Desperate to raise her right, I sacrificed everything...sometimes myself, to make sure I was a great mother. My heart broke a little when I had to send her to school,BUT I was always class mom, went on class trips, baked, organized, donated, etc. I cried when she cried, I was always there to catch her when she stumbled, bandage her boo-boo's, after broken friendships and broken hearts.
I made sure she was respectful, did well in school, she was a "good girl".

But somewhere along the lines she grew up,and changed. Now, although her face is just as beautiful, I don't recognize her. Gone is my lovely,well behaved girl from just a few years ago. She's been replaced by a disrespectful, rude, lying, obnoxious college drop out. I'm not permitted to have an opinion on her life. She yells and screams at me, turns her back on her father when he talks to her, she makes demands about how she thinks the house should be run.

I ask this child for no rent to live in MY house, yet she treats me as though I am her tenant. She eats, sleeps, gets her clothes washed, cable, internet all for no contribution, and either she doesn't realize or she doesn't care that she's breaking my heart.

Now I cry not because someone hurt her feelings, or because she was left off someone's party list, but because she's dating a loser with a child but no job, she busts her ass working and makes good money, but never has a dime in her pocket.I worry about her future because she's careless and is easily led, she doesn't like to tell people 'NO'.

I am her mother, I'll never stop worrying,caring or loving her. But I will NOT be abused by the child I once swore to protect with my own life. I never considered I would need someone to protect me from her.



One of the things I love to do most since I was a child is to read. It was always my way to escape my childhood and find my way to a better place. I still do this, in fact
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Good Luck...and READ!!!